This year, was the 20th anniversary of my father’s and mother’s passings and it left me feeling incredibly sad and incredibly vulnerable. I have not felt this level of grief since their passing and it was hard to manage, it was hard to manage then and it was hard to manage 20 years later……….
Grief sits within us, in different parts of our body. For me, the main load of my grief sits right in the middle of my chest, my heart, it sits in there and I can feel its vice on it. For others it sits within their stomachs and for some on their skin. This grief is still so alive within me this year, it could be because I lived through a similar (but not) experience that caused my dad’s passing, it could be because it has been 20 yrs. It could be the combination of the 2 in conjunction with the energies of this year but I know it is all of it………
What I have found is that grief is not only tricky for the one going though it but also for the ones you speak with about it. As a society, we have not been taught how to hold someone in compassion while they navigate their grief; to hold someone in pure unconditional love and compassion; to hold them in their vulnerability and pain. I have found the best way to sit and be with someone who is grieving is simply to hold them in love. That is it. No judgement, no trying to fix the problem for them, for there is no problem besides the absence of love that is felt when a loved one crosses over, this is grief.
So please, be there for your loved ones. Sit in the discomfort of their pain with them, I know this isn’t easy but it really does help one heal and has been one of the things that has helped me through this year and 20 yrs prior.
Grief is such a powerful teacher. It reminds us of the love we shared with another.
From My Heart To Yours
Love Deena xXx