Life Flows in Cycles

Life flows in cycles 💫
Seasons change 💫
Friends may change 💫
At times it feels as though you are on top of the world and at other times you might feel as though you are clawing your way back to the surface for air 💫
People might misunderstand you and likewise you might misunderstand the intentions or words of others 💫
Life flows in cycles; How we hold ourselves through every moment is key 💫
Stay in the present 💫
Hand on heart, take a deep breath, centre yourself. Be present with your emotions, your feelings, yourself and with others 💫
Ask questions, apologise, ask for help, cry, laugh, rejoice, take a gosh darn nap, be compassionate with yourself and others, honour yourself 💫
Hold yourself in congruence with your heart, hold yourself in integrity and if you mess up or fall, pick yourself up, dust yourself off, make amends, forgive yourself and others, have compassion for yourself and others 💫
Accept where we all are at every moment and allow life to flow through you with creative abandon 💫
Be your own cheerleader and champion. Be the cheerleader and champion for others 💫
And most of all Live, Love, find Peace when you can and cultivate Joy in your life (it is a choice after all) 💫

From My Heart to Yours
So Much Love & Deepest Blessings 
Deena xXx

Choices, Courage & Self Awareness

And through the mist we realise we all have a choice to make.......

Our choices create our reality. This was the theme of a session today with an incredibly beautiful soul but what if your choices are being defined by old beliefs systems and fears? How can you consciously make changes to ensure that you are now making your choices based on your current reality and not on an old one?

The first step is to shine a light on your perceived darkness. To shine a light on your shadows and on your fears. To become aware of them and to become of aware of what triggers them. Dance with them. Get to know them because when you become aware of these things, when you shine on a light on them you can choose to change them. You can choose to act differently. You can choose to change your story, to change the tempo of your life’s music and you can choose to live in a completely fulfilled and aligned manner. You can choose to live in congruence with your heart and your innate beliefs…………all it takes is for you to make the choice and then for you to have the courage to step forward and forge a new path for you ♥️ For this to happen we must first be aware that we are making these choices on a daily basis.

Awareness is key my loves ♥️ Self-Awareness is key ♥️

Are you ready to look within, to meet yourself and all of your gnarliness and to still hold yourself tenderly and compassionately? Are you willing to be the one that helps you to feel safe in this world? I know for me one of my ‘wounds’ is around safety. If I do not feel safe I find it incredibly hard to stay in my heart and make decisions from there. For me I have had to seek refuge within my own heart, not externally. I have had to hold myself so gently and tenderly and at times coax myself back into the light and what this has taught me is that first of all I am always safe when I follow my heart and stay true to my heart; myself ♥️ secondly it has taught me to embrace all aspects of myself especially little Deena who resides within (when your inner child feels safe and loved, life generally flows smoother) ♥️ and thirdly it has taught me that I am a freakin masterpiece and that I have the power to create an amazing life if I so choose ♥️

So what are you choosing for yourself in this moment? Are you choosing a life that is amazing and epic and full of magic? Or are you choosing to stay in the shadows? Whichever it is, know that it is your choice and you have the absolute power to make changes if you so desire ♥️

From My Courageous Heart to Yours
Deena xXx

Fall in Love With Being the Best Version of Yourself

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Fall in love with the process of becoming the very best version of yourself
— Shruti Gaja

I love this quote so much because it is so true. Even if it is painful, even if it feels as though you might not make it......when we break through those barriers, self limiting beliefs and own our worth and magnificence and step into our divinity, little by little it makes everything worthwhile ♥️

I like to think of healing like a big balloon. While going through the process the balloon expands and stretches just as how we expand and stretch to our limit and then there is this moment of realisation, healing and wholeness and the balloon is popped, the air released and you guessed it, all of the tension is released. It’s that moment where you exhale into the healing ♥️ 

It is the sweet release in the healing, the knowing and the ultimate wholeness ♥️ and every time you go through a healing you step into the best version of yourself ♥️ 

Of course this doesn’t only happen in healings, we have EVERY DAY and EVERY MOMENT to be THE VERY BEST VERSION of ourselves but when you break through a big belief or limitation that has been holding you back for so long you do feel this sense of relief, compassion and pure love for yourself and your journey ♥️

Much Love to You All
Deena xXx

Fall in Love

New Year, New Word, New Theme.....maybe?

Happy New Year!

I am not the type of person to make resolutions, I never have been, I tried a couple of times but I always ‘failed’ pretty soon after they were made and then I felt like crap so I gave up on them pretty quickly and instead just focussed on what type of person I wanted to be for the year, kind, generous, loving etc you get the idea.

This has evolved into me choosing a word that reflects the main lesson or idea of how I want to live my life for the year ahead. My word last year was TRUST and the Universe provided me with many ways to build trust within myself and with others and with the Universe itself. It was a remarkable year of learning and tending to my wounds and loving them and myself while I healed.

This year my word is EMERGE and I am truly excited to see what magic the year ahead holds.

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You might be wondering how I came about my word for the year. It’s pretty easy and anyone can do it. I thought about 2018 and the overall feeling I had throughout the year and the lessons I learnt. I thought about what worked for me and what didn’t work and I sat with all of those feelings for a while, the good, the bad, the ugly, the joyous, the magical, the loving feelings…..I sat with them all and allowed myself to feel them all and give gratitude to them and when I felt complete with this stage, I allowed myself to imagine how I want to feel in 2019, all the things I want to accomplish for this year, in my personal life, my business life, my financial life, my family life; in every aspect of my life and as I was dreaming up this life for me I was shown how in 2018 I was in a cocoon, going through a metamorphosis of sorts, a healing and the more I dreamed up what I wanted my life to be like, the more I could feel myself coming out of this cocoon, emerging and spreading my wings. Funnily though, the word came to me days later as I only just saw this vision while in meditation.

If you have not done so as yet or have never thought of finding a word/theme for your year ahead I would encourage you to try it out. Please know there are no hard rules on this, you can have a phrase, you can have more than one word even! It is entirely up to you. You might even have chosen a theme or word for last year and you feel you have not completed it. It just feels incomplete…….guess what? You can have that word again as your word for this year! Listen to Your SOUL, it will let you know what it is you are needing.

So here are my simple steps:

  1. find some quiet time to yourself and centre yourself

  2. look back on 2018 and take stock of all that occurred in it. The good , the bad, the incredible, the ugly and the magical and find their lessons. You may want to write this all down.

  3. give thanks to 2018 for those lessons - they helped you on your way

  4. think about how you want to feel in 2019

  5. start to imagine and dream your life in 2019

  6. allow your word or theme to come through. Listen to YOUR SOUL

  7. write it down! What does this word mean to you?

  8. you can create a vision board with this word in the centre or on the top

  9. live your life to the fullest. Throughout the year come back to this word, ask yourself if your actions are contributing towards it

  10. Create Magic!

I hope this has helped and that you can find your perfect word/theme/phrase for the year.

Whats your word

Time To Shine

I sat at my computer to update some information on my site and thought to myself, I wonder if I have a blog in me and I have to admit that I really wasn't sure I did but as soon as I thought, I'm not sure I was given was the title......Time To Shine. So here it is.....

What does this meant to me, Time to Shine? Is it time for me to shine? Time for you to shine? Time for us all to shine? When I feel into it, it is all of them! It is simply time for us to stop hiding in the shadows and to open up our heart and our lives to the immense possibilities that lie before us. I do offer a word of caution here though as not all possibilities/opportunities are equal and therefore not all should be taken up as some will be like a test to see exactly where your resolve, trust and faith lie and others will be so sweet and so beautiful that you know from the instant it is uttered to you that you are in 100%  

So how do you know if this possibility that has been presented to you is going to allow you to shine your light in the way that feels aligned and authentic to you? You need to stop and be in the silence and allow your heart to speak to you. Allow it to send you the messages that are authentic to you. Listening to and following your heart will ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS allow you to SHINE!!

Photo by Brigitte Tohm from Pexels

Photo by Brigitte Tohm from Pexels

Here's a little exercise on how I listen to my heart, even when I am feeling overwhelmed. First of all I talk it out or write it out. I am one of those people who needs to speak or write out all of my feelings on the subject, to let all the "noise" out so that I can sit in silence and connect in with my heart. This doesn't mean that I cannot connect in before I clear the noise but I have found that this is the best way for me to be as clear as possible, as quiet as possible which makes the connection with my heart as loud as possible. When there are still emotions running around, I can only hear little whispers, when I am quiet and still I can hear the roar of my heart, its needs, desires and direction. 

To Connect In With Your Heart

  1. place your hand on your heart and take a few deep, relaxing and cleansing breaths
  2. draw your attention to your heart and feel the love you have for it building
  3. meet your heart, that Divine place within
  4. ask the question you need clarification on eg "Divine Heart of mine, is this opportunity <<Insert opportunity>>> right for me in this moment? Will this opportunity allow my heart to soar and my light to shine? Will it keep me on my path?"
  5. Wait for the answer, it may come as a feeling, as a thought, as a sound, a scent, an animal messenger or you might just know automatically what it is
  6. Once you have received your message always give thanks and send love

I know this might sound a little odd, connecting in with your own heart in this way but this is your Sacred Heart you are connecting into, your Anahata and as such, you therefore need to honour it as the sacred being it is. 

From My Heart to Yours

Deena xXx

The Power of Words

I had an experience a while back that really got me thinking. I won't lie, this took me a bit by surprise and made me even doubt in myself a little. The thing is, I don't even think that this beautiful soul realised the words she spoke and I am certain she didn't realise the effect it had on me BUT once I realised that these were just my fears cropping up, I could then use my techniques to help resolve them within myself.  

I then objectively looked at the words and the emotions that were used in this interaction. This is something I discuss with my clients and children all the time, the power of words and thought I would share my insights.

Words are very powerful instruments.

We use them to communicate with others and with ourself.

The words we use are used by the Universe to mould and create awareness and our reality. 

Stop and think about that for a moment......your words create and mould your reality. That's powerful stuff man!

Words Create Our Reality

 

Words are agreements.

Words are used to express ideas or feelings.

Words have the power to encourage and the power to destroy.

The meaning of words is not absolute and is always open to personal interpretation and to the interpretation or perception of the human consciousness. With this in mind, I tend to carefully choose my words when speaking with someone whether it be a friend, my children, my partner or a client. I know that not only my words but also the emotion behind them and the interpretation in the human consciousness can affect how my words are received by another.

You might be thinking, "but their reaction is theirs not mine and I should not have to change who I am and anyway, isn't it all Divine and maybe it is a good thing for their reaction to come up for their own self development?" and to this I say yes, I totally agree with you, that feeling might have to come up to be healed so that that person can learn some self-love BUT I do believe that when you speak with love even if the words are firm, the vibration of love is always felt and I firmly believe that the same holds true if you speak in fear or in anger. When a message is received in fear or anger it can totally derail someone and negatively affect their self-esteem (and this is what happened to me, the vibration of fear was in the words that were spoken to me)

BUT

When a message is received in a loving, respectful way it encourages growth and self-realisation.

There is a vast difference between the two and I would like to suggest that the question/s you need to ask yourself are "What do I want to leave the person with?", "Do I want to build them up and inspire them?", or even How can I be of service to this being?" Your words have the ability to take someone on a powerful, transformative healing journey and your words also have the power to affect exactly how someone's journey is experienced. 

Words are singularly the most powerful force available to humanity. We can choose to use this force constructively with words of encouragement, or destructively using words of despair. Words have energy and power with the ability to help, to heal, to hinder, to hurt, to harm, to humiliate and to humble.
— Yehuda Berg

A point to note is that this goes with self-talk as well. How we speak to ourselves, how we present our wants in this world is also affected by the language we use. You might be thinking I would like a loving relationship where we hold, repect, cherish and nurture each other BUT you might actually be saying out loud, I want a relationship where I am taken care of. Do you see the difference? Being taken care of implies that you either cannot take care of yourself or you are not willing to take responsibility for yourself. 

My belief is that we must speak with each other and ourselves in a mindful way; a way that is respectful; a way that is gentle, humble, loving and honest. If we can all be mindful in conversations with each other then we can make this world just that much more beautiful. 

With Love and Blessings

Deena xXx

Love, Love, Love, Love; Crazy Love!

Love is the most powerful emotion there is but, can you define love? What does love actually mean? The meaning quite possibly changes from person to person and definitely changes from relationship to relationship eg mother to daughter; partner love; sibling; friendships etc.

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The ancient Greeks used 7 words to define the different states of love:

Storge: natural affection, the love you share with your family. 

Storge is the effortless love that parents have for their children.  It is characterised by acceptance, forgiveness, and sacrifice. Through this love, children come to understand comfort, nurturing, security, and safety.

 

Philia: the love that you have for friends.

Philia is connected to companionship, trust, and friendship and most often exists when values are shared and feelings are mutually reciprocated. The Greeks considered Philia to be love among equals. It is free from physical attraction and has more to do with loyalty or a sense of team.

 

Eros: sexual and erotic desire kind of love. 

Eros is sexual desire in its purest form. Eros is both intense, consuming, and yet also quick to fade. Relationships built only on this form of love do not tend to last, which provides immense insight into the many short-lived relationships in our society that glamorises Eros.

 

Agape: this is the unconditional love, or divine love. 

Agape is what we feel for humanity, Mother Earth, and the Divine. We tap into Agape most easily through meditation, time in nature, and following our intuition while walking our spiritual path. Agape is given without expectation of anything in return.  The Greeks considered Agape, the highest form of love. It is bigger than our individual selves, free from desire and expectations, and exists despite shortcomings. It is connected to All That Is. 

 

Ludus: this is playful love, like flirting.

Imagine the early stages of falling in love or the playfulness that exists between new lovers.  It’s characterized by teasing, euphoria, flirting, and butterflies in the stomach. Despite the emphasis on what is new, long-term relationships need Ludus as well. It’s the secret ingredient to keeping love fresh and exciting.

 

Pragma: long standing love. The love in a married couple.

Pragma is love that has had time to age and develop over time. Pragma has transcended the casual and moved beyond the physical. There is an easy harmony and balance. Unlike Storge, Pragma requires effort from both parties. It is the art of learning compromise, developing patience, and being tolerant. It is characterised by duty, respect, admiration, compromise, and working toward common goals.

 

Philautia: the love of the self 

Our sense of belonging and purpose come from Philautia.  It is the self-love and self-worth needed to believe in ourselves so that we can walk our spiritual path. Philautia can be either healthy or unhealthy.  The unhealthy variety is connected to hubris and narcissism. It focuses on fame, wealth, and pleasure.  The healthy form of Philautia teaches us that we must learn to love ourselves first in order to truly love others; nor can we care for each other before we learn to do that for ourselves. The Greeks believed that the only way to true happiness was to learn unconditional love for yourself. It is the most direct way to experience spiritual freedom in this life.

 

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Imagine just for a moment, if we as a society learnt and understood the 7 different types of love or states of love. We learnt how each state of love feels. How beautiful would the world be. When we can be aware of the types of love that exists. How beautiful to be able to define the love we have for someone with one simple word and that person understand exactly what you mean. 

Love is complex but not complicated (we make it complicated); Love is something that we all yearn for, it is what we are made of, it is what we thrive on and it is what we risk a lot for as well. Love is always incredibly juicy, exhilarating and rewarding and within every relationship, within each type of love lies an entire landscape of emotions and feelings and moments for us to savour, learn from and expand our knowledge on the depth of the word LOVE that we as a society so often throw about without really knowing the full impact of the what love actually is and without understanding the type of love that we feel for the other.

So although LOVE is LOVE, within the human word LOVE and within the emotions of LOVE there are many types of LOVE. Defining love and knowing how its different forms interact with each other and manifest in our lives is therefore vital for our development. 

So I ask you today, which types of love do you have in your life? and Do you choose and invite love into your life?

 

Much Love & Blessings

Deena xXx